When a marriage starts to get rocky, many people's first reaction is divorce. In some cases, divorce is the right choice. Many relationships are abusive either physically or emotionally, and people in relationships like that should get out of them as quickly as possible. Some relationships however, just lack the proper communication and perspective they need to work. If you are currently in a marriage that is unsatisfying and are considering divorce, take a look at these steps and give them a try before you make the decision to end your relationship permanently. While not everyone will be able to fix their marriage, these steps will at least help you understand yourself and better prepare you for future relationships.
If you are feeling unhappy about your relationship, or your spouse has already expressed dissatisfaction about your relationship, your first reaction may be to push aside those feelings and ignore them. The idea of change is very scary and divorce and force large amounts of change upon us in a short amount of time. Avoiding the subject will not help your relationship get better; in fact you will only be postponing the inevitable. Taking on you and your spouse's feelings and coming up with a plan to address your issues is the only way you will save your marriage.
Counseling is a positive step to help understand and address your feeling emotions and issues. Often times, the stress of a relationship is based upon one members unhappiness with themselves rather then the relationship itself. The strain of the individuals issues spill over into the the relationship and cause marital problems. Individual counseling and couples counseling are very beneficial to openly discuss issues and learn how to communicate better with your spouse.
Relationships do not just continue along if you ignore them. After you have identified your own issues, think back over the last few months or years of your marriage. Do you and your spouse take time alone to enjoy the kinds of things that brought you together in the first place? What was it about the other person that made you choose them as your life partner? Sometimes, setting aside designated time each week to do simple things together will help you remind each other what made you fall in love. No relationship can be maintained if all the two of you ever talk about are bills and household chores. Remind each other what it was like when you had fun together.
Take the time to work on your own issues. Take the time to discuss and communicate with your spouse. Take the time to do things together. Take the time to seek counseling if you are having trouble with issues you can not seem to resolve. Marriage is a work in progress that needs attention. If you have tried all these things and there are no changes, then a separation and eventual divorce may be the only course of action.
If you are feeling unhappy about your relationship, or your spouse has already expressed dissatisfaction about your relationship, your first reaction may be to push aside those feelings and ignore them. The idea of change is very scary and divorce and force large amounts of change upon us in a short amount of time. Avoiding the subject will not help your relationship get better; in fact you will only be postponing the inevitable. Taking on you and your spouse's feelings and coming up with a plan to address your issues is the only way you will save your marriage.
Counseling is a positive step to help understand and address your feeling emotions and issues. Often times, the stress of a relationship is based upon one members unhappiness with themselves rather then the relationship itself. The strain of the individuals issues spill over into the the relationship and cause marital problems. Individual counseling and couples counseling are very beneficial to openly discuss issues and learn how to communicate better with your spouse.
Relationships do not just continue along if you ignore them. After you have identified your own issues, think back over the last few months or years of your marriage. Do you and your spouse take time alone to enjoy the kinds of things that brought you together in the first place? What was it about the other person that made you choose them as your life partner? Sometimes, setting aside designated time each week to do simple things together will help you remind each other what made you fall in love. No relationship can be maintained if all the two of you ever talk about are bills and household chores. Remind each other what it was like when you had fun together.
Take the time to work on your own issues. Take the time to discuss and communicate with your spouse. Take the time to do things together. Take the time to seek counseling if you are having trouble with issues you can not seem to resolve. Marriage is a work in progress that needs attention. If you have tried all these things and there are no changes, then a separation and eventual divorce may be the only course of action.
