You are in a relationship and recently have been trying to exert more control over what your partner does. However, it is not going too well and you are being accused of taking control over his/her life. This is not a good scene, Nobody likes to be under the thumb of another person, whether they love them or not. This can be disastrous to a relationship and often even to your safety.
If you are the controlling one, look at your behaviour and begin to take responsibility for your actions. One person does not have the right to control another person in any way, and this type of behaviour is absolutely unacceptable in a loving relationship.
During this period be calm, and do not start arguments about it. You both need to work in tandem to discover the cause of the controlling behaviour, and to come to grips with the solution. Let your partner know that there will be consequences if they do not change their way of life.
Take stock of your own feelings in connection with the relationship. Is it worth it to stay in a controlling situation, or are you losing your self-respect by allowing this to happen. You should not allow another person to dominate you and hold complete control over your life, and there needs to be some kind of intervention if you want to stay with this person. Seek professional help, if possible.
When you are in this relationship, you need to see what cards the other person is playing. Are you the victim of the reward-punishment system? This allows your partner to have complete control over your life and is not acceptable.
If there is an age difference, there is a natural tendency for the senior partner to believe that the other person has not had experience or is immature. This can escalate into complete control of every aspect of the relationship and that is completely wrong.
When there is a considerable age difference between you, this can also cause a problem if the older party flaunts his/her years of life experience. They will make you feel that you could never function alone, and thus keep their hold on you.
If you can both agree to share the power you will be much happier and your relationship will become healthy instead of being toxic. The dividing of power allows each to take on tasks for which they are suited. This will result in a much closer relationship.
If you are the controlling one, look at your behaviour and begin to take responsibility for your actions. One person does not have the right to control another person in any way, and this type of behaviour is absolutely unacceptable in a loving relationship.
During this period be calm, and do not start arguments about it. You both need to work in tandem to discover the cause of the controlling behaviour, and to come to grips with the solution. Let your partner know that there will be consequences if they do not change their way of life.
Take stock of your own feelings in connection with the relationship. Is it worth it to stay in a controlling situation, or are you losing your self-respect by allowing this to happen. You should not allow another person to dominate you and hold complete control over your life, and there needs to be some kind of intervention if you want to stay with this person. Seek professional help, if possible.
When you are in this relationship, you need to see what cards the other person is playing. Are you the victim of the reward-punishment system? This allows your partner to have complete control over your life and is not acceptable.
If there is an age difference, there is a natural tendency for the senior partner to believe that the other person has not had experience or is immature. This can escalate into complete control of every aspect of the relationship and that is completely wrong.
When there is a considerable age difference between you, this can also cause a problem if the older party flaunts his/her years of life experience. They will make you feel that you could never function alone, and thus keep their hold on you.
If you can both agree to share the power you will be much happier and your relationship will become healthy instead of being toxic. The dividing of power allows each to take on tasks for which they are suited. This will result in a much closer relationship.
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