Deep inside us, we likely feel an emptiness: something missing. What we're likely doing, unbeknownst to us, is ensuring that this feeling of something missing stays with us.
Every time we get to a point where we want to do something (or not do something), instead of going with it, a little voice in us says, "Oh, but what about this or what about that?" What we then likely do is not go with what we like doing. We even question whether what we're stopping ourselves from doing as a result of the little inner voice - is indeed something we even like doing in the first place.
We deny ourselves something we like doing. And in this way we perpetuate the emptiness, the feeling that something is missing, the emotional hole.
What is missing is that we're forever giving up on ourselves. What is that "something" that seems missing? We are missing from our lives, because we give up on ourselves.
Instead, what is required is that we stop and recognize this pattern, and break out of its spell even though it feels risky and scary - this is indeed liberating. By going for what we like doing, we overcome what creates, ensures and guarantees the something-is-missing feeling. By doing this, we'll slowly, ever so slowly, remove the hole, the emptiness, the feeling that something is missing.
With us living by such a pattern, it cannot feel different; it can only feel that something is missing.
Say we're living our lives mostly wanting to do the right thing. Say we meet someone, we meet their parents, and we get married. We settle into setting up house. We have children. In the meantime, we settle into our job. We might first have a few jobs just to see where our interests are, but eventually we settle. So now, we have the perfect setting. And, yes, in some cases pets. And during this time, what we do is to ensure that this perfect picture isn't disturbed. We might have wanted something else, or to do more with our lives. We might not know what yet. But this perfect picture gets all our attention.
And at some point, we are likely to question whether this is really what our life is about.
Every time we get to a point where we want to do something (or not do something), instead of going with it, a little voice in us says, "Oh, but what about this or what about that?" What we then likely do is not go with what we like doing. We even question whether what we're stopping ourselves from doing as a result of the little inner voice - is indeed something we even like doing in the first place.
We deny ourselves something we like doing. And in this way we perpetuate the emptiness, the feeling that something is missing, the emotional hole.
What is missing is that we're forever giving up on ourselves. What is that "something" that seems missing? We are missing from our lives, because we give up on ourselves.
Instead, what is required is that we stop and recognize this pattern, and break out of its spell even though it feels risky and scary - this is indeed liberating. By going for what we like doing, we overcome what creates, ensures and guarantees the something-is-missing feeling. By doing this, we'll slowly, ever so slowly, remove the hole, the emptiness, the feeling that something is missing.
With us living by such a pattern, it cannot feel different; it can only feel that something is missing.
Say we're living our lives mostly wanting to do the right thing. Say we meet someone, we meet their parents, and we get married. We settle into setting up house. We have children. In the meantime, we settle into our job. We might first have a few jobs just to see where our interests are, but eventually we settle. So now, we have the perfect setting. And, yes, in some cases pets. And during this time, what we do is to ensure that this perfect picture isn't disturbed. We might have wanted something else, or to do more with our lives. We might not know what yet. But this perfect picture gets all our attention.
And at some point, we are likely to question whether this is really what our life is about.
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