Have you been dumped recently? I know it can really hurt. I've been there myself. It can be really agonizing to sit there, feeling while you are life is falling down all around you. Perhaps you are even haunted by all kinds of questions on why it happened.
Well, here's a simple bit of love help you can (and should) do as soon as you get dumped.
All you've got to do is totally cut off all contact with your ex for a minimum of one month.
This is known as the No Contact Rule, and it has helped numerous folk get past tough break ups in their lives.
But, why do we do this?
Well, contacting your ex isn't really going to help feel better when you are in this mental state because you need time to work through your own emotional wounds from the split.
Consistently hearing news about how "gosh darn swell" they're doing isn't going to make you feel better. In truth it could cause you to feel worse. Particularly if they are seeing someone new already.
Take this one-month period to shape up and get your feelings in hand.
What can you do for one month?
Well, this actually relies on what you want or have to do with your life. Everybody has things that they love doing or changes they need to make in their life.
This is the time to do those!
If you want to find a better job or shed some extra pounds, then this is your time to do that.
If you adore learning new things or meeting new people, then you can do this now too.
What you are doing is taking your life in a positive new direction to change your focus from negative things to positive things. Instead of feel bad about the break up, you can do things you enjoy and rebuild your confidence as you make slow but steady progress towards your new goals.
After one month, if you feel ready, it's easy to get back in communication with your ex. But don't feel bad if you want to continue on with No Contact for a longer time period. There aren't any rules here and you'll do best if you simply go with your gut feel.
When you are strong enough emotionally, you will be much more prepared to see your ex again without being so shaken by them (or their dating life).
Well, here's a simple bit of love help you can (and should) do as soon as you get dumped.
All you've got to do is totally cut off all contact with your ex for a minimum of one month.
This is known as the No Contact Rule, and it has helped numerous folk get past tough break ups in their lives.
But, why do we do this?
Well, contacting your ex isn't really going to help feel better when you are in this mental state because you need time to work through your own emotional wounds from the split.
Consistently hearing news about how "gosh darn swell" they're doing isn't going to make you feel better. In truth it could cause you to feel worse. Particularly if they are seeing someone new already.
Take this one-month period to shape up and get your feelings in hand.
What can you do for one month?
Well, this actually relies on what you want or have to do with your life. Everybody has things that they love doing or changes they need to make in their life.
This is the time to do those!
If you want to find a better job or shed some extra pounds, then this is your time to do that.
If you adore learning new things or meeting new people, then you can do this now too.
What you are doing is taking your life in a positive new direction to change your focus from negative things to positive things. Instead of feel bad about the break up, you can do things you enjoy and rebuild your confidence as you make slow but steady progress towards your new goals.
After one month, if you feel ready, it's easy to get back in communication with your ex. But don't feel bad if you want to continue on with No Contact for a longer time period. There aren't any rules here and you'll do best if you simply go with your gut feel.
When you are strong enough emotionally, you will be much more prepared to see your ex again without being so shaken by them (or their dating life).
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If you found this helpful and you'd like to learn more about how to tell if your ex has moved on check out this article about what to do if your boyfriend wants a break.
