If you're in pain right now because of your breakup then I honestly weep for you. I know how awful it can be to not only be rejected by the one you love so much but also to feel so helpless to do anything about it. The torment and pain in your heart and your soul touches everything in your life and you feel like a captive in its embrace and you wish you knew what to do to relieve some of that pain. How can you get back to feeling at least somewhat normal? How can you regain hope that you will be able to get your ex back?
Even when you feel that you might simply be trying to be realistic, if there is still a desire to get back together with your ex I highly encourage that you at least try. If they truly make you happy and together you were once a happy couple then your relationship is not beyond hope and you owe it to yourself to pull yourself together and start moving in that direction again. In the long run, it's going to be a struggle to give up on this dream and you will probably have a difficult time trying to replace someone that you love so much that you are in emotional pain.
There will be times when you are going to have bad days. You'll have days when you will feel like leaving work and crawling up in a ball on the couch but you'll also have good days eventually. There will be a day when you start to see progress and mysterious things will happen in your life as your ex starts to come back to you. The challenge is getting through those difficult days and working through the pain and emotions. There will be days when you're going to feel like you're on the edge of tears. So, what can you do during those trying times to get through the day?
Find a nice, quiet, out of the way place where you can be alone for a few minutes. Close your eyes and take a deep, cleansing breath. Feel the stress in your body and let go of it. Know that the feelings that you are having are normal. They are a self-defense mechanism in your body put there to help you to avoid painful situations. What we are going to do is change things up a little bit and instead of thinking negative thoughts or visualizing you getting hurt, we are going to think positive and pleasant thoughts.
Let me explain a little further what's going on inside of you. You're upset because you miss your ex. In addition, you are afraid that you're going to get hurt again. Your ex might reject you or you fear that you might never be able to win their heart back. You worry that it could take weeks or months to get them back and this pain that you're feeling might never stop. Then you prepare yourself for the fact that your ex might go off and start seeing someone else and that would destroy you. But if you can step outside of the situation and see into the future and believe that it is possible to win your ex back then nothing that is going on will seem very painful at all. You can remember how it felt to be with your ex and you can look to the future with anticipation of feeling that love again and the situation becomes bearable.
You will have bad days and you'll have good days in your journey to winning him back. Try not to let these bad days take control of your life and try to remain positive and optimistic. Allow yourself to dream. It won't cost you a thing. Look at pictures of you and your ex together and remember how it felt to be in love. Know in your heart that you can and will get him back if you are patient with yourself and you steadily move forward in your quest to win the heart of the man that you adore. It's only a matter of time and there will come a day when you have that opportunity again. Live your life as if that day could be today and be constantly watchful for signs that your ex is falling in love with you again when you see him again.
Even when you feel that you might simply be trying to be realistic, if there is still a desire to get back together with your ex I highly encourage that you at least try. If they truly make you happy and together you were once a happy couple then your relationship is not beyond hope and you owe it to yourself to pull yourself together and start moving in that direction again. In the long run, it's going to be a struggle to give up on this dream and you will probably have a difficult time trying to replace someone that you love so much that you are in emotional pain.
There will be times when you are going to have bad days. You'll have days when you will feel like leaving work and crawling up in a ball on the couch but you'll also have good days eventually. There will be a day when you start to see progress and mysterious things will happen in your life as your ex starts to come back to you. The challenge is getting through those difficult days and working through the pain and emotions. There will be days when you're going to feel like you're on the edge of tears. So, what can you do during those trying times to get through the day?
Find a nice, quiet, out of the way place where you can be alone for a few minutes. Close your eyes and take a deep, cleansing breath. Feel the stress in your body and let go of it. Know that the feelings that you are having are normal. They are a self-defense mechanism in your body put there to help you to avoid painful situations. What we are going to do is change things up a little bit and instead of thinking negative thoughts or visualizing you getting hurt, we are going to think positive and pleasant thoughts.
Let me explain a little further what's going on inside of you. You're upset because you miss your ex. In addition, you are afraid that you're going to get hurt again. Your ex might reject you or you fear that you might never be able to win their heart back. You worry that it could take weeks or months to get them back and this pain that you're feeling might never stop. Then you prepare yourself for the fact that your ex might go off and start seeing someone else and that would destroy you. But if you can step outside of the situation and see into the future and believe that it is possible to win your ex back then nothing that is going on will seem very painful at all. You can remember how it felt to be with your ex and you can look to the future with anticipation of feeling that love again and the situation becomes bearable.
You will have bad days and you'll have good days in your journey to winning him back. Try not to let these bad days take control of your life and try to remain positive and optimistic. Allow yourself to dream. It won't cost you a thing. Look at pictures of you and your ex together and remember how it felt to be in love. Know in your heart that you can and will get him back if you are patient with yourself and you steadily move forward in your quest to win the heart of the man that you adore. It's only a matter of time and there will come a day when you have that opportunity again. Live your life as if that day could be today and be constantly watchful for signs that your ex is falling in love with you again when you see him again.
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