I feel that none of us are born with the knowledge of how to fix a relationship or get an ex back. Factor in the fact that you have been emotionally destroyed by your breakup and alone it might be almost impossible to do the right things to get your ex back. Emotionally, you might not understand what is going to draw your ex closer to you and what is going to push them away. Without some help you are almost doomed to lose your ex forever, sad to say.
Your first order of business should be to begin getting yourself put back together. It is time to rebuild your life and your confidence in yourself and in your relationship. It is one thing for someone to give you the words to say or steps to take to get your ex back and it is completely another to be able to pull it off. Without feeling sure about yourself and in your ability to get your ex back your body language and your tone of voice is going to send signals that just won't match what you are saying or doing with your ex and this will be disturbing to them. They will sense that something isn't quite right. You simply need to believe in yourself and have that confidence in yourself to pull this one off.
Admitting that you're having a hard time is a step in the right direction. Knowing that you made a mistake of contributed to the downfall of our relationship is important to you but it is not important in the beginning stages of getting your ex back. Your ex simply isn't going to listen to a thing that you ahve to say. Being nice and accomodating or apologizing is going to fall on deaf ears right now. You might get frustrated and want to just walk away but just hang with me here for a minute.
Right now you're carring around a bunch of emotional baggage. Getting your ex back is a pretty simple process but it is the guilt over what your ex says you did to cause the breakup that is killing you and the doubt that you can actually get them back that is crippling you right now. What your ex says was the cause of your breakup has nothing to do with why you are apart right now no matter what they say so stop dwelling upon what they said you did wrong. I don't care how horrible it was. It can be overcome. You need to move past this yourself and understand what is actually going on. You are just too close to the situation and too emotionally involved to be making good decisions right now. Let go of that guilt and set yourself free to get them back because in time nobody is going to remember what you did. Not even your ex, I promise.
Beating yourself up emotionally causes you to feel and act desperate. Your actions become frantic as you try to get your ex back by hook or by crook. You are just a little unstable right now emotionally but rightly so. One minute you might want to just throw your hands up and quit and the next you might think that it would be a great idea to call your ex up. You might have a sudden thought of what you need to say to your ex but when you follow through and call your ex to lay this gem upon them you get more of what you've always gotten since your breakup which is rejection.
Understanding your relationship, what led to its downfall and what you need to do to get your ex back is difficult in your present state. Your judgement is impaired and you have a better chance of making the wrong decisions instead of the right ones at this point. Advice is great and having someone that can keep you from making the mistakes that will cost you time and further alienate your ex from you is helpful. If getting your ex back is important to you then you need advice from someone that has been there and actually gotten their ex back. Walk in the steps of those that have found success.
This isn't going to be a walk in the park. There are times when you're just going to have to lock your phone away in a safe place or turn off the computer and entertain yourself with a funny movie or a long walk while the temptation to contact your ex passes but it is often better to do nothing than to do the wrong thing that will further alienate your ex from you while you get your head together. Knowing what to do to get your ex back goes against every instinct that you have but if you are patient and you understand the basics of relationship dynamics you can and will get your ex back
Your first order of business should be to begin getting yourself put back together. It is time to rebuild your life and your confidence in yourself and in your relationship. It is one thing for someone to give you the words to say or steps to take to get your ex back and it is completely another to be able to pull it off. Without feeling sure about yourself and in your ability to get your ex back your body language and your tone of voice is going to send signals that just won't match what you are saying or doing with your ex and this will be disturbing to them. They will sense that something isn't quite right. You simply need to believe in yourself and have that confidence in yourself to pull this one off.
Admitting that you're having a hard time is a step in the right direction. Knowing that you made a mistake of contributed to the downfall of our relationship is important to you but it is not important in the beginning stages of getting your ex back. Your ex simply isn't going to listen to a thing that you ahve to say. Being nice and accomodating or apologizing is going to fall on deaf ears right now. You might get frustrated and want to just walk away but just hang with me here for a minute.
Right now you're carring around a bunch of emotional baggage. Getting your ex back is a pretty simple process but it is the guilt over what your ex says you did to cause the breakup that is killing you and the doubt that you can actually get them back that is crippling you right now. What your ex says was the cause of your breakup has nothing to do with why you are apart right now no matter what they say so stop dwelling upon what they said you did wrong. I don't care how horrible it was. It can be overcome. You need to move past this yourself and understand what is actually going on. You are just too close to the situation and too emotionally involved to be making good decisions right now. Let go of that guilt and set yourself free to get them back because in time nobody is going to remember what you did. Not even your ex, I promise.
Beating yourself up emotionally causes you to feel and act desperate. Your actions become frantic as you try to get your ex back by hook or by crook. You are just a little unstable right now emotionally but rightly so. One minute you might want to just throw your hands up and quit and the next you might think that it would be a great idea to call your ex up. You might have a sudden thought of what you need to say to your ex but when you follow through and call your ex to lay this gem upon them you get more of what you've always gotten since your breakup which is rejection.
Understanding your relationship, what led to its downfall and what you need to do to get your ex back is difficult in your present state. Your judgement is impaired and you have a better chance of making the wrong decisions instead of the right ones at this point. Advice is great and having someone that can keep you from making the mistakes that will cost you time and further alienate your ex from you is helpful. If getting your ex back is important to you then you need advice from someone that has been there and actually gotten their ex back. Walk in the steps of those that have found success.
This isn't going to be a walk in the park. There are times when you're just going to have to lock your phone away in a safe place or turn off the computer and entertain yourself with a funny movie or a long walk while the temptation to contact your ex passes but it is often better to do nothing than to do the wrong thing that will further alienate your ex from you while you get your head together. Knowing what to do to get your ex back goes against every instinct that you have but if you are patient and you understand the basics of relationship dynamics you can and will get your ex back
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