First off let's determine what we mean by the terms 'dating ' and 'relationships'. When does a date become a relationship? On the third or 4th date? When you've slept together? When you have both agreed to move on to the next stage?
While all of these factors come into play, like everything else in the dating world, it's not an exact science. It tends be a mutual thing, a fixed acceptance by you and your guy that your relationship is special, doubtless exclusive and going somewhere. It can still be exciting naturally, but there are particular assumptions that are made â€" like Mondays are flick nights or Fri. evenings are spent independently of each other. By this stage you are probably not wondering whether he'll ever call again, you know that he likes shorts to boxers and whether he's taking sugar in his coffee. If you have never met any of his pals, have no idea which soccer team he supports, or whether he's still playing the field, then you are likely still in the dating phase.
You want to remember that while finding a guy to date is a real challenge , it's not a competition. Enjoy the pursuit, the goal setting and the excitement - but don't let yourself believe that in you're in a race to some sort of finishing post with your other girlfriends.
It is frequently true that when you're in a functional relationship, you seem to be more favored and attractive than when you are single. This is because being an element of a couple appears to show that you are appealing and successful. And ironically you often get even more desirable to other men. This is in part due to the actual fact that a woman who is spoken for is typically the final challenge to another guy â€" their competitive genes regularly outweigh their commonsense and in part due to the safety part of having the ability to relax, talk and even flirt with someone who, because they are dating one of their buddies, is not very likely to put any claims on them. This additional appeal though, is also down to the natural self esteem that folk emit when they are happy and in a positive relationship that makes them feel happy.
Dating is great: it's fun, it has its own special momentum and it doesn't need to lead to a more serious relationship. It may naturally, but part of the fun is just enjoying your time together, the discoveries that you make about each other and the sheer, easy pleasure of not being made to wonder whether he is 'the one ' or where it could be leading. Always remember that a date is purely for one or two hours, not for the rest of your life. What have you got to lose? (And BTW, this is the same dating advice for men as it is for girls.).
While all of these factors come into play, like everything else in the dating world, it's not an exact science. It tends be a mutual thing, a fixed acceptance by you and your guy that your relationship is special, doubtless exclusive and going somewhere. It can still be exciting naturally, but there are particular assumptions that are made â€" like Mondays are flick nights or Fri. evenings are spent independently of each other. By this stage you are probably not wondering whether he'll ever call again, you know that he likes shorts to boxers and whether he's taking sugar in his coffee. If you have never met any of his pals, have no idea which soccer team he supports, or whether he's still playing the field, then you are likely still in the dating phase.
You want to remember that while finding a guy to date is a real challenge , it's not a competition. Enjoy the pursuit, the goal setting and the excitement - but don't let yourself believe that in you're in a race to some sort of finishing post with your other girlfriends.
It is frequently true that when you're in a functional relationship, you seem to be more favored and attractive than when you are single. This is because being an element of a couple appears to show that you are appealing and successful. And ironically you often get even more desirable to other men. This is in part due to the actual fact that a woman who is spoken for is typically the final challenge to another guy â€" their competitive genes regularly outweigh their commonsense and in part due to the safety part of having the ability to relax, talk and even flirt with someone who, because they are dating one of their buddies, is not very likely to put any claims on them. This additional appeal though, is also down to the natural self esteem that folk emit when they are happy and in a positive relationship that makes them feel happy.
Dating is great: it's fun, it has its own special momentum and it doesn't need to lead to a more serious relationship. It may naturally, but part of the fun is just enjoying your time together, the discoveries that you make about each other and the sheer, easy pleasure of not being made to wonder whether he is 'the one ' or where it could be leading. Always remember that a date is purely for one or two hours, not for the rest of your life. What have you got to lose? (And BTW, this is the same dating advice for men as it is for girls.).
About the Author:
Susan Pinner is a dating coach and newshound on subjects like how to attract women, and popular dating manuals like Guy Gets Girl.
