The basis of a good relationship; whether you're dating or married, is to communicate. With relationships over time people forget how to communicate with their partner. They either forget their partner does have feelings and talk to them any way they want or they just do not talk that much because they are so consumed with their own life to realize that their partner is there. Most problems in marriage do not come from money, in-laws, or children. All couples face strife but the main reason most couples break up is communication breakdown. The couple that learns to properly communicate can work through almost anything.
Be ready to apologize. Know when you are wrong and admit to it. By not admitting and trying to be prideful you are just going to make things worse. Your relationship must work on apologizing and forgiveness. If you cannot do either, you will stunt the growth of your relationship.
Offer Forgiveness. When we hold onto offenses we are holding onto something that will cause bitterness and resentment. We are happier and healthier when we choose to extend forgiveness regardless of whether or not an apology was offered. If we do not forgive it is as if we are drinking poison and waiting for the other person to suffer harm. Too often we hold our mate to a higher standard than we hold ourselves to. Forgive your spouse and let God work on their heart.
Respond Softly. Relational tension escalates quickly. We say things like, "They know what buttons to push," or "They make me so angry!" The reality is no one can make you angry. Anger is always a personal problem that must be dealt with internally and by God's grace. Instead speak with a soft tone when you are having a conversation about something you and your mate disagree on. We have a choice: we can use our words to stir anger or we can use our words to turn anger away.
Relationships should not always be about love, especially when they are first starting out. It is understandable that some people reach the feeling of love at a different time than one another. This cannot be forced and you cannot be mad about it. Everything takes time and one way to help that time is by being kind. Being kind not only shows you respect your partner, but that you respect their decisions.
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Improve your relationship by talking to your partner and talking to them with respect. Communicating with your partner will also bring you two closer as you learn new things about them whether it be their daily task or just how they feel about things.
Be ready to apologize. Know when you are wrong and admit to it. By not admitting and trying to be prideful you are just going to make things worse. Your relationship must work on apologizing and forgiveness. If you cannot do either, you will stunt the growth of your relationship.
Offer Forgiveness. When we hold onto offenses we are holding onto something that will cause bitterness and resentment. We are happier and healthier when we choose to extend forgiveness regardless of whether or not an apology was offered. If we do not forgive it is as if we are drinking poison and waiting for the other person to suffer harm. Too often we hold our mate to a higher standard than we hold ourselves to. Forgive your spouse and let God work on their heart.
Respond Softly. Relational tension escalates quickly. We say things like, "They know what buttons to push," or "They make me so angry!" The reality is no one can make you angry. Anger is always a personal problem that must be dealt with internally and by God's grace. Instead speak with a soft tone when you are having a conversation about something you and your mate disagree on. We have a choice: we can use our words to stir anger or we can use our words to turn anger away.
Relationships should not always be about love, especially when they are first starting out. It is understandable that some people reach the feeling of love at a different time than one another. This cannot be forced and you cannot be mad about it. Everything takes time and one way to help that time is by being kind. Being kind not only shows you respect your partner, but that you respect their decisions.
...Additional information at Communication in Marriage
Improve your relationship by talking to your partner and talking to them with respect. Communicating with your partner will also bring you two closer as you learn new things about them whether it be their daily task or just how they feel about things.
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