There is an endless suppy of advice out there on how to win your girlfriend back. People will tell you that you can win her back by being nice to her or buying her a nice present or apologizing and working through your problems. People will tell you that you can change her mind and get her back by being romantic or promising to change but you will find that most of this information is complete junk. The truth stands in stark contrast to this advice and you might be shocked by what will actually work in helping you to win her back.
Now, just kick back and open your mind to what I am going to be telling you right now. Most of what I am going to show you actually conflicts with popular advice out there. But, why is that? It is because most of the advice out there is from people who have never really studied human behavior and what it takes to get an ex back. The advice that works is edgy and raw and goes directly against any other advice that you might find such as...
Trying to win her back by being overly nice or patient or kind is a popular piece of advice that you will get. But think about this. Your ex broke up with you. She broke your heart. Who is nice to someone that has rejected them? Being nice to her in hope of getting her back is just a pipe dream. The truth is that she will probably lose respect for you either consciously or subconsciously and being nice to her will only further ruin your chances of winning her back.
There is a time and a place for being nice to your ex. That time is right after you get her back and not a moment sooner. Nobody likes or respects someone that goes out of their way to be nice to them after a breakup. Sure, it might let her off the hook a bit and free her up from any guilt that she might have about hurting you but you are not going to win her heart by being nice to her.
Talking about your problems is another option that will end in failure and only make things worse if you were hoping to win her back. You might think that this is the perfect solution. All you have to do is talk about what went wrong, come up with some ground rules so the same thing doesn't happen again and she will take you back, right? The honest truth is that she doesn't want to talk about your problems. They were your problems and her solution was to break up with you. Problem solved!
Let me put it this way. Do you like talking about unpleasant things? Nobody does! So save talking for a little pillow talk after you win her back, ok? Save your breath and your dignity in the meantime and just keep your mouth shut until you do get her back. Keeping your mouth shut keeps you from saying anything stupid and making matters worse, ok?
If you are positive that you want to win her back then you are going to have to be tough on yourself and on your ex. You are going to have to be ruthless in your pursuit of her heart and stop at nothing to win her back. There will be times when you just want to tell her that you still love her but this would be a huge mistake! You are going to have to deny your feelings for a while and do your best to push her emotionally beyond what she is going to be able to handle. You are going to have to make her feel those wonderful feelings that every woman needs to overcome the breakup and get her back. Once you do, everything will fall into place naturally but until then it is game time and time to be ruthless!
None of this means that you have to be cruel or evil to her but it may mean that you deny your feelings for her for a while. It means that you might have to say some things that aren't quite true if you are confronted such as denying that you want to get her back. It means that you need to stay focused and be always mindful of the big picture and your long term goal. It means delaying immediate gratification in order to get her back and make her fall in love with you again. You must be ruthless with yourself and her, if need be, by playing her emotionally so you can win her back forever.
Now, just kick back and open your mind to what I am going to be telling you right now. Most of what I am going to show you actually conflicts with popular advice out there. But, why is that? It is because most of the advice out there is from people who have never really studied human behavior and what it takes to get an ex back. The advice that works is edgy and raw and goes directly against any other advice that you might find such as...
Trying to win her back by being overly nice or patient or kind is a popular piece of advice that you will get. But think about this. Your ex broke up with you. She broke your heart. Who is nice to someone that has rejected them? Being nice to her in hope of getting her back is just a pipe dream. The truth is that she will probably lose respect for you either consciously or subconsciously and being nice to her will only further ruin your chances of winning her back.
There is a time and a place for being nice to your ex. That time is right after you get her back and not a moment sooner. Nobody likes or respects someone that goes out of their way to be nice to them after a breakup. Sure, it might let her off the hook a bit and free her up from any guilt that she might have about hurting you but you are not going to win her heart by being nice to her.
Talking about your problems is another option that will end in failure and only make things worse if you were hoping to win her back. You might think that this is the perfect solution. All you have to do is talk about what went wrong, come up with some ground rules so the same thing doesn't happen again and she will take you back, right? The honest truth is that she doesn't want to talk about your problems. They were your problems and her solution was to break up with you. Problem solved!
Let me put it this way. Do you like talking about unpleasant things? Nobody does! So save talking for a little pillow talk after you win her back, ok? Save your breath and your dignity in the meantime and just keep your mouth shut until you do get her back. Keeping your mouth shut keeps you from saying anything stupid and making matters worse, ok?
If you are positive that you want to win her back then you are going to have to be tough on yourself and on your ex. You are going to have to be ruthless in your pursuit of her heart and stop at nothing to win her back. There will be times when you just want to tell her that you still love her but this would be a huge mistake! You are going to have to deny your feelings for a while and do your best to push her emotionally beyond what she is going to be able to handle. You are going to have to make her feel those wonderful feelings that every woman needs to overcome the breakup and get her back. Once you do, everything will fall into place naturally but until then it is game time and time to be ruthless!
None of this means that you have to be cruel or evil to her but it may mean that you deny your feelings for her for a while. It means that you might have to say some things that aren't quite true if you are confronted such as denying that you want to get her back. It means that you need to stay focused and be always mindful of the big picture and your long term goal. It means delaying immediate gratification in order to get her back and make her fall in love with you again. You must be ruthless with yourself and her, if need be, by playing her emotionally so you can win her back forever.
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