From the time we are placed in the bassinet our heads are full of stories and adventures that exist only in 'far away lands'. This introduction in life, should be enough to inform us that the preceding story is pure fantasy; but we are young, naive, full of imagination, and given to believe that if we are lucky enough, one day, we too will be in a relationship and live ''happily ever after".
The idea of a bedtime story is excellent for many reasons it encourages family time the children are quiet it aids in the experience of language and is normally a far better alternative option to the abundance of screen-entertainment that is on offer for the new generation.
However the recurring foundational basis of such fairytales can end up in a whole range of unachievable expectations in later life when it comes to relationships and the actual world. These stories lead us to believe that there is one 'soul mate ' with which a fairy story ending is attainable. They imply that true contentment is only attainable if you have companionship. All too frequently women are pictured in film as depressed and lonesome until they find their 'prince'.
The storylines inherently suggest that 'finding love ' is the battle, and that once you have - everything else will slide into place. In the meantime, in the real world, circumstances like work, wellbeing, finances, debt, children, chores, family and death, just to name a few issues, continually impact the picture wonderful life that we grew up idolising.
Fairytales often make the phenomenon of 'love at first sight ' seem common, when in actual fact it's the exception to the rule. Such an event emphasize's the physical facets of a relationship, and validates unrealistic expectations as it at the same time weakens friendship and mutual respect as the foundations of a wonderful loving relationship.
A good relationship enables us to embrace better versions of ourselves and galvanizes normal people to reach extraordinary outcomes. The irony might be the story of Cinderella, one of the widely known stories about a deep and lasting love, has given an unattainable dream, leaving us desiring more instead of seeing what is great around us
*Cinderella is a widely recognized Walt Disney Production.
The idea of a bedtime story is excellent for many reasons it encourages family time the children are quiet it aids in the experience of language and is normally a far better alternative option to the abundance of screen-entertainment that is on offer for the new generation.
However the recurring foundational basis of such fairytales can end up in a whole range of unachievable expectations in later life when it comes to relationships and the actual world. These stories lead us to believe that there is one 'soul mate ' with which a fairy story ending is attainable. They imply that true contentment is only attainable if you have companionship. All too frequently women are pictured in film as depressed and lonesome until they find their 'prince'.
The storylines inherently suggest that 'finding love ' is the battle, and that once you have - everything else will slide into place. In the meantime, in the real world, circumstances like work, wellbeing, finances, debt, children, chores, family and death, just to name a few issues, continually impact the picture wonderful life that we grew up idolising.
Fairytales often make the phenomenon of 'love at first sight ' seem common, when in actual fact it's the exception to the rule. Such an event emphasize's the physical facets of a relationship, and validates unrealistic expectations as it at the same time weakens friendship and mutual respect as the foundations of a wonderful loving relationship.
A good relationship enables us to embrace better versions of ourselves and galvanizes normal people to reach extraordinary outcomes. The irony might be the story of Cinderella, one of the widely known stories about a deep and lasting love, has given an unattainable dream, leaving us desiring more instead of seeing what is great around us
*Cinderella is a widely recognized Walt Disney Production.
About the Author:
Chris Dawson is a highly qualified marriage counseling expert, helping couples resolve relationship issues. His in depth expertise, of over 25 years expertise, is highly sort after throughout the world in his position as Clinical Director for Humaneed, a leading Marriage and Relationship Counseling Service based in Australia.
