Steps to move on your abusive relationship

By Esther Harvey


Hardly anything is more upsetting to us in our lives than a break up. We are so used to having in our life that when they want to walk out, we simply cannot bear it. We give up all ego, all sense of pride and go all emotional just to be able to get ex back.

I once was in a similar tragic situation. In order to get my boyfriend back, I gave up all my sense of pride and self esteem. I kept on pleading with him, kept on talking nice with him and cried with him on the phone. What I received from this was some of his pity. This certainly wasn't what I needed in my life. At one point I was depressed and felt utterly helpless.

A friend was simultaneously experience the effects of a breakup, however, she didn't get as emotional. Instead, she was out having a blast and partying with her friends. And I was stunned one day to see that she had gone back to him!

While speaking to her, I discovered she had learned to control her emotions to get back with her ex. She instead decided to use mind tricks to get his attention. She used psychological facts to get her ex back.

Getting emotional and begging are never effective. If you talk to him a few times and the spark is gone, it's time to let him go. Before you can get him back, you must first let him go. When you give space and time to the partner, they will understand and realize your worth. I realized that if I wanted her back, I had to set emotions aside in favor of logic. Although it may seem that I learned this too late, I am no longer afraid of relationships.




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